When you say your wedding vows you say for better or for worse. It is not just something that may happen. For worse is something that will happen. Every marriage has bad times. No marriage is perfect all of the time. There are ups and downs that come with marriage. What is done to fix a bad relationship is what the difference is. Sometimes when partners get stressed about things they shut down and do not talk. They can feel that the other person is stressed and usually just want to help. Fights happen because no one is talking. By sitting your partner down and telling them what is going on they will feel closer to you. Sometimes just talking can help to bring down the stress level. Sometimes the other person may have a solution or be willing to help with a tough situation. Make sure to include your husband or wife in everything. This will help the marriage to stay solid because you will be a team. It is easier to work together on the same team then feel like you are two teams battling. That is not a healthy way to live. Expressing your feelings and keeping your partner informed in what is going on is very important.